Momming is HARD, like harder than I expected…way harder. I’m a very maternal person, I always have been. I knew at a young age I was destined to be a Mommy. I went through phases of different careers that would be something I could do but ultimately I wanted to be a stay at home Mama and raise my little babes. I wanted the crazy days…the good and bad. I wanted to make memories with my babies as much as I could. It’s what I had as a child and cherish so deeply. My mom stayed at home with us kids, it was her passion and she dedicated her life to us.
In the 7 months that I’ve been home with my Daughter I’ve learned rather quickly how hard it actually is. WOW. Mega props for the moms who seem to do it so flawlessly. I on the other hand have had to go into survival mode several times!! I have come up with a few things that are like part of my daily routine that help me survive the toughest of days.
Now of course this sounds annoying at times depending on how much sleep you’re getting. Trust me, Dani is 7 months only and I got up over 6 times last night to take care of her. However it releases the stress, tension, and the WONDERFUL endorphins that NEED to get out.
I’ve lived off caffeine as much as any other Mama but when I down a glass of water it revives me. I feel refreshed and hey go ahead get crazy and add some lemon or cucumber.
I have sat on my bed in the wee hours of the night with a baby that won’t sleep and I feel like I literally cannot go on. I would pray. My prayer life has gotten stronger after becoming a Mom. Because how am I supposed to do it alone? NEWSFLASH!! I’m not.
-Bubble bath or Hot shower-
Yes please. Although I may not get one every day or every 3 days. When I do it’s my time to shut off. In the first few weeks it was my time to let down and have a good cry. Which brings me to the next one.
It’s okay to cry…It helps! When I first had Dani, it was my daily routine. I would go stand in the shower and just cry. Not necessarily for any reason at all but it helped. Later I learned it was those postpartum hormones raging. Never did I think I would struggle with those feelings but I got through it.
-Leave the house-
Now if you are blessed enough to have a spouse, grandparent or just someone you trust with your precious babe. TAKE ADVANTAGE! Just the other day I got out of the house for 4 hours..ALONE. It was amazing. I was able to get my hair done, work on my blog, and get some groceries. Doing this made me feel refreshed! I came home feeling stronger and happier!!
Those are just a few things that really help me. Would I be the first person to think of these? Nope, probably not, but maybe this will reach a new mama who feels desperate at the moment, a mom who feels alone….Just remember you’re not alone, there is someone out there going through the same things. Reach out and make a connection. Let motherhood bring you joy and nothing less. You deserve that.